Rememmber that you are all going to get on the Plane ok.... you are all going to get on the Plane I repeated saying that just in case you missed it.... You all have tickets to get on the plane, your ticket is valid and is for this flight today right now.. the boarding gate is open, you are at the right gate, the plane is on time, the boarding gates opened on time. You all have tickets to fly on this flight....

Some of you will be ok about being on the plane, you are comfortable about the whole plane thing, you don't suffer from air sickness, you trust the plane and the airline and the young female pilot. and you have no fear of flying at all... plane flights are just completely ok with you.

There are other people getting on the plane, these people have been on planes before, they have flowen many times, they have had lots of smooth flights as well as lots of incident free soft and smooth landings... and may be a few not quite so soft, but still good safe landings, they have flown on lots of planes to lots of places, but they are not ok about flying, infact they are not even ok about being on an aircraft going anywhere!... They just simply hate flying, infact is would be fair to say they detest it totally--- but here's the thing, they still get on the plane, and the plane still takes them to where they want to go.

Infact everyone gets to their destination, they all get to exactly where they are going.the actual thing to understand is, simply that everyone gets to where they are going, that means all the people, even the people that are totally petrified of flying.

So whats the point.... well if you are thinking of going out to a dance or to a party or to a disco or to a night club or to a new club or society, or even to the biggest ballrooom in the world full of 25,000 people you do not know, that's right all of them are complete straingers, yep ever single one of them, instead of staying at home and playing safe, you are going to go out and talk to these people.... it doesn't matter whether you have thoughts that they may not like you or they may think your hair is too thin or whatever.... you are going to talk to a lot of them, and I will tell you why... on this web page....

Firstly what you think about the other people bears no resemblence to reality what so ever, your thoughts about whether your ok or liked or accepted are simply just thoughts, but you forget.. you have survival handled completely, so what others think is not necessarily accurate either....,

Oh whooo. hold your horses! are you saying that both the thoughts you have and all the thoughts that the other people have in the biggest ballroom in the world, that none of them necessarily are actually accurate...... yes.... thats not to say that you should not listen to what people are saying, of course you should!

Bassically what we are saying here is very subtle and a little mysterious: i'll explaine:, whether you are a woman or a man, you can not look around a room of any number of people you see in a room, and have a couple of thoughts about each person you see and be sure that thouse thoughts are accurate. You can no longer no whether the girl in the corner with the black stockings has a boyfreind that she saw last night, or infact has no boyfreind and and wants to go out to a cheap Chineease resturant with the guy hanging on to the Radiator near the girl with the curly blond hair and the freckle on her noise and then go back to her flat with him and ........ you get the idear! I think.....

Here is a real example: a man walks in to a Salsa Club in England, he is just an average guy, he is not good looking but he is not bad looking, he is wearing cloths that fit and are clean more or less, he is clean shaven and his hair is clean and short, he asks a pitite girl with long black hair standing by a table for a dance, he holds out his hand, she accepts and the music fires up into a medium paced salsa tune, and the man and woman dance. the Guy knows a few moves, and dances reasonably well, the girl does some spins and follows, they stop dancing. The man asks her to dance again latter on, a diiffrent tune a different pace same girl, again they dance perhaps a little faster, perhaps a little better..... perhaps a little more style.... the music ends for that dance.... a few words are exchanged like thanks and great or what ever.... The night progresses and the man asks the girl to dance once more she accepts and the dancing is similar, perhaps the man is more sweaty, or and perhaps the girl is more sweaty, (know one notices) some of the music is fast....... the man offers to walk the girl home, just that: and he does so, walking with her for perhaps a mile or so, they talk about nothing in particular, the girl has a french accent, she is from Portugal, the man offers to give the girl his mobile telephone number and says good night, the girl writes down the number, the man walks home, he has not kissed her and he hasn't been kissed by her, he thinks she is nice and freindly, but has know idear what she is thinking... but he has found out a bit about her is some conversation, just simple stuff, her name what she is doing here etc. ***** wooosh imagine the world stops **** what thoughts did the man have.... well just a few really... obvoiously he thought I want to ask her to dance.... otherwise he would not of asked her to dance. He clearly talked to her about how she came to be in the UK and he must have thought something like "would you like to take my mobile number" because he said something along thouse lines.... but he had no thoughts about does she like him or want to see him again, because he didn't ask her that question!? The man didn't ask her to come in for a coffee, not did he say can I see you again, he just walked home having had what he thought was an enjoyable night...

***** wooosh imagine the world starts.... **** Suddenly two days have gone by and in the middle of the afternoon unexpectedley the man's mobile phone rings the number is not one he recognizes, the man flips open the phone presses a button and!!! clearly only the man and the woman in this real story know what happens next............

Just Get on that Plane!!..... you will live and die with your same thoughts, they will not actually make any diffrence to anything

More less everybody wants to appear normal and wants to get on with thier fellow man or woman, so yes people may possibly decide that they do not want to talk about a certain subject, or they may ask you to hold them closer or further away whilst dancing, but very few people will say: I know I could never ever fancy you as the first sentance they say to you before you or them have said anything else........ so you do not need to worry about that happening!!!!